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Sheril Kirshenbaum is a research scientist and the author of
The Science of Kissing. She explains the empirical and neurological observations that can help lead to improved osculation for you and your loved one. After all, you only get one chance to make a good first impression, so pay attention and pucker up.
Get to know each other
When both partners take time to build a bond before their lips even meet, it can boost the " love hormone" oxytocin. This encourages a sense of attachment and builds an early emotional bond.
Play up your assets
For women, lipstick and plumping serums were designed for a reason -- men respond to full, rosy lips. More than just cultural practice, full lips may indicate higher oestrogen levels and fertility.
Foster anticipation
Anticipating something makes obtaining it more satisfying -- partly due to the neurotransmitter dopamine. So, if you dream about how the kiss will happen, the actual moment is likely to feel more romantic.
Stay sober
Kissing can trigger the release of chemicals such as dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin which affect the way we feel. Additional substances -- such as alcohol -- stop us accurately interpreting the experience.
Oral hygiene matters Scent and taste make a difference in a good kiss -- particularly to women who, generally, have a stronger sense of smell than men. Brush and floss every day, and keep mints or gum handy so you'll be prepared.
Pick the moment
Humans associate a good kiss with trust, so wait until it feels comfortable. Never pressure a partner, as it can raise the "stress" hormone cortisol. Kissing and cortisol don't make good chemistry.
Don't worry
Kissing is a perfect example of nature and nurture complementing one other; we have an instinctive drive to connect this way but its expression is shaped by our culture and experiences.
Keep kissing
A German study in the 80s found men who kissed their wives before work lived five years longer than peers who didn't. It's thought the kissers had a positive attitude, leading to a healthier lifestyle.
This article was originally published by WIRED UK
