I miss you already.
Leaving Sex Drive is one of the hardest things I've ever done. Over the past five years, this column has become such a core part of me that I don't quite know how to let go.
And yet, after much soul-searching and many discussions with trusted advisers, I know the time has come to plunge with my whole heart into a few other pursuits. These demand a focus and an energy I cannot muster without compromising Sex Drive.
I have much sympathy for the proverbial cobbler and his unshod children – relationships deserve time too, along with exciting projects.
But I think I've done what I set out to do here: Discuss sex in an intelligent way, from a perspective that -- as recently as two years ago -- was so offbeat, even other sex writers had to ask me what I meant by "sex and tech." Wired News took a big chance in adding a sex column to its lineup and, if I may be immodest for a moment, I think it worked out pretty damn well. (Thanks, Kourosh.)
I hope I've been able to serve as a gateway between us regular folks and people on the forefront of modern sexuality. I hope I've helped plant the seeds of a more positive and relaxed approach to sex, particularly as our most intimate lives become more entwined with our technologies.
As I accidentally told one reporter, I'm a tech-positive columnist who writes about sex. He liked the sound bite and I cringed, but I have to admit, it's true.
I am proud of what we've done together over the years -- yes, we, for Sex Drive would not be what it is without your comments, e-mails, interviews, conversations, flames and blogs -- to show that sex tech is not all about fear and politics.
I've tried to emphasize how sex tech touches each of us personally: It's not just a social movement, it's an everyday experience for us, individually and as lovers, spouses, partners. This sex tech stuff is serious! I hope I have provided you with a laugh now and then.
I don't know where I'll pop up next, although I assure (or threaten) you that you've not read the last of me. I don't consider myself a true blogger -- I don't think fast enough on my feet, for one thing -- but I do blog a few times a week at reginalynn.com. I've become braver about sharing my fiction. I'm still reporting on sex (and sex tech) in the news on Tuesdays at Playboy Radio. And, of course, you can always find me in my books.
Thank you for sharing your Fridays with me.
I'll be seeing you,
Regina Lynn
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Regina Lynn will always love you. It's not you, it's her. You'll meet a new sex-tech columnist who makes you happy, and then you'll realize that this is for the best, despite the mutual heartbreak and shattered expectations. Really.
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