I just read about a guy who took video of himself and his girlfriend having sex, without telling her he was recording; she dumped him, presumably for good reason, as he has now burned the video to DVD and left several copies on car windshields in their hometown -- with her name and contact information included.
The Associated Press story is infuriating on a number of levels -- such as "the woman ... has received several visits and phone calls from strangers seeking sex" -- but what really got me was the (obligatory) quote about "young children" having gotten their hands on the DVDs. (What did they do, walk around the parking lot plucking free movies off cars?)
I'm more concerned about protecting the ex-girlfriend. Hopefully she's not a teacher, as the way things are going, she'd probably get fired as too distracting, or charged with exposing children to porn.
What's also puzzling is the criminal charge, although at least they managed to charge him with something:
Recording sex without telling your partner(s) is beyond rude, it's mean. Releasing any video without its subjects' permission is rude at least -- considering what could happen to a person's career, family, and relationship, it could be breathtakingly damaging. And distributing explicit video with your ex's name and contact information is tantamount to rape-by-proxy.
Obscene exhibition? No. This was deliberately exposing someone to physical danger, along with all the added consequences of having your nakedness and sexual activity paraded among strangers and all over town. I wouldn't be surprised if the video is online by now -- and no, I'm not going to go look for it, and I hope you won't either unless it's to take it down. Unwatched.
OK, so I'm crabby from getting up before the crack of dawn only to experience flight delays and a weird unnatural headache that must have its origin in some horrible act I did in a past life. But still. If what that ex-boyfriend did isn't a crime yet, it should be.
[thanks, zonker]
