A student paper at the

A student paper at the University of Hawai'i is looking at the effects of pornography on couples, and I'm pleased to see that the writer acknowledges that (1) most people do not get "addicted" to porn, and (2) porn can have a place in women's lives and in relationships.

The article references a Sociologist Michael Kimmel, "who has discovered in his research that each year more of his female college students approve of porn." And yet the quotes support my own research (and experience, ahem) in that women are more drawn to cybersex (active communication) than porn (passive entertainment).

Internet porn has altered the fabric of American relationships so much that in a 2003 survey of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, more than half said the Internet had played a “significant role” in divorces in the past year, and that online porn lead to half of these cases.

“I’d rather have it real, than something vicarious through actors and actresses,” Kala said, pondering that maybe men need porn more because of a lack of availability and increased sex drive. “I’d rather have a one night stand than get into the whole fantasy. That’s just pointless. I’d rather have a small connection with a real person than get caught up in this fake world with no results.” Kala and her boyfriend have a porn collection in their apartment, and seem quite comfortable about it.

It's interesting to see the perspective from college students, who are the first generation to come of age with so much readily available porn. I have faith they'll handle it better than their parents are.

(Speaking of porn, the London Free Press has a cute little blurb about Spanish police being accidentally porned. Trojan horse indeed.)